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Finding Liberty

1/4/2013

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Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty. --Frank Herbert
Somebody that I used to know used to wait. He’d pray— specifically, expectantly— and then he’d wait.  I was alternately inspired by his complete, pure faith, and irritated by his inaction.

I think of him when I face decisions, when I pray for big change. There is something to having faith, for sure.  Something to being able to think bigger than our ability to plan.  But I think there is also something to working hard. To showing up, every day, even when we don’t feel like it.  Especially when we don’t feel like it. I can’t expect my dreams to knock on my door just because they are worthy and I am busy working hard at other things. I have to work for them, to fight for them.
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I don’t really like making resolutions.  Once I proclaim it, I can’t unsay it.  So if I fail, which I probably will, I can’t take it back.  Knowing this, I either don’t make resolutions, or I make them so vague that it’s practically impossible for even me to determine whether I have attained them.

I have also stayed away from the idea of selecting a “guiding word” for the year.  I have friends, a couple, who pray over and choose one each year.  They focus on it all year long.  For me, a wordsmith, this seemed too difficult.  Choose just one?  For the year? When there is so much I'd like to change?  And so many blessed words?

And yet, this year, after so much change, I found myself reevaluating. I looked at my life, at the things I don’t do that leave me disappointed at the end of every day.  I have a pile of reasons for them, many of them valid, but it’s never enough to make me feel better. 

I have stopped getting up early, I’m not reading, I’m not writing, and even when I do, it’s not with regularity and intent to do something greater.  I’m not as fit as I’d like to be, spiritually or physically.  When I consider all of these issues, at first, they seem unrelated.  But when I look a little closer, they are essentially the same.  I lack discipline.

When I was single and enjoying it, my dad described me as “committed to being non-committal,” and that was pretty accurate. I didn’t like making plans.  I wanted to be free.  Clearly, life has taken me a world away from that now.  There is much discipline in the way I cook and eat, the way we live, how we spend our money, for the most part, and the way we raise our children. My capacity for discipline is great, bordering on drudgery at times, but it’s all outwardly focused, and I’m suffering because of it.  And, I suspect, those I love are too.
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 So this year, we all made resolutions in four categories: for learning, for our family, for our communities and for ourselves. They could be as direct and hard to attain as Mirabella's, "Stop crying for no reason," or as nonsensical and awesome as Emerie's "go to the summer." Mine were all variations on a theme; they all fit under the umbrella of discipline.  

I think, before, lacking discipline was my way of having at least a smidgen of spontaneity in my life—something that was unscripted or unplanned.  But without a plan for the small bit of time that is mine, it gets wasted.  It’s spent on Facebook or reading words others have penned instead of strengthening and reviving my body, filling my soul or spilling it for others.

It isn’t dramatic. It starts with an alarm clock, with getting up and moving, working at the parts I don’t like, spending energy on things I’m not  yet good at, writing when I’m uninspired.  It’s sweeping change made in small choices over many days. I can do better. And this year, I resolve to.

Whatever your big change, here’s to tiny steps in the right direction.

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Jessica W link
1/4/2013 04:19:20 pm

I love this Christina! Love the categories. I'm right there with you so I may have to steal this idea. Happy New Year!

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Christina link
1/4/2013 04:26:28 pm

Thanks, Jess! Happy New Year to you, and steal away! Truth be told, I stole the concept from Pinterest and customized it for our family :)

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Tara
1/5/2013 04:19:43 am

Love you and the words you do have the discipline to write here. Like Emerie, I also want "go to the summer." Your girls - so clever and amusing!

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